He hasn't heard from you after the first date? Maybe you made one of the following seven mistakes

A date can go wrong in a thousand ways, of course. But even if you don't plan to confess to your criminal career, put your bad intentions with your partner's mother on the table, or admit to paint that you're only interested in a fat bank account and not love per se, there are plenty of things that can go wrong. You may be asking yourself why the last date didn't actually go well, even though you left it in good spirits and feeling like everything was on the right track. Your other half may not have had the same impression, and while you may never know why, there's a good chance you made one of the following mistakes.

Ego always comes into play when dating. And not just when it comes to men. Even ladies have to admit that this is the case, and competing with the inner voice that preaches pride to us is sometimes difficult. Matthew Hussey, a relationship coach who regularly sells out his shows and already has over 550 million views on YouTube, has compiled a list of things, or rather reactions or phrases, that are best avoided if we want to succeed as a partner.

1. "That's cute!"

If a man on a date is passionately telling you about something he really cares about, listen up. It could be about his favorite band; maybe he's working hard to get a promotion; maybe he plans to start a blog and publish his worldview, or he could have decided to finally get rid of his beard after twenty years. Whatever the topic, if you notice he's really sticking to it, don't try to comment on everything with the word "cute". As Matthew says, "No man wants to hear that what he's really serious about in his life is cute!" even if you mean well.

2. Weight

If you reveal yourself on a first date that you don't feel good in your body, gossiping about the points on your stomach or the soft hands that make you feel sorry for yourself because you're embarrassed to wear tank tops, you'll very likely put your counterpart off. In fact, such statements are often quite obviously based on feelings of inferiority, lack of self-esteem, and although self-criticism and self-reflection are always in order, save the crying about "I'm so fat/fat" for another day. After all, on a first date you want to impress with something other than how much you dislike yourself. However, don't talk about the other person's weight either. How comfortable would you be if someone asked you at an introductory coffee how on earth you got into such tight jeans? Probably not so much, right?

3. The "ex" act

That you wouldn't even think of talking about your former love on a first date? Then dig into your conscience. Sometimes it's just bits and pieces, hints or small mentions. No one cares if you've had dinner with someone else at that restaurant, when you last spoke to your ex on the phone, or what he did to hurt you so badly that you not only broke up, but you tend to infect a possible new love with it. It's understandable that you try to communicate on a date that you're single, and verbalize what the experience taught you that you don't want to repeat, or what would be nice to build on a relational level. Talking about the past takes time, though. Sure you'll get on the subject, but more naturally, calmly, and above all, resigned to the fact that you might learn something you don't like. But it is certainly not a topic for early exploration!

4. "You look so funny!"

This phrase can only be used if you are one hundred percent sure that the counterpart is really trying to look funny. If you are in a club and you have only a fleeting impression that his dancing creations are driven by irony, you'd better not laugh and wait to see if your suspicions are correct. It is possible that the other person(s) is simply trying very hard to do something that is not entirely natural to him/her. If you laugh and point out this insecurity, you will hurt him/her more than he/she will be willing to admit. Not everyone is able to express or move with confidence in every situation. They are limited by their experience or ability as well as by ego and fear. So be careful!

5. Mocking ignorance

This point may seem like an obvious one: laughing at someone for not knowing something is not the way to do it, and we've known that since kindergarten! On the other hand, we don't always manage to follow through. The fine line between teasing and mocking is not hard to cross. Therefore, the next time the other person confides in you that he/she doesn't know, hasn't seen, heard, can't do or can't handle something, try not to take on the role of a comedian who will rub it in and come back to it a hundred times. Instead, suggest that you can watch a film together that the other person has not seen. Surely they'll appreciate that response much more than a horrified, " You're kidding, you haven't seen something so basic! Maybe he ' ll accept your joking rebuke, but maybe he'll just feel silly behind the smiles and nods and hardly ever confide any more of his "secrets" to you.

6. "Nobody wants me!"

Have you ever said something like that? Have you sarcastically laughed at your state of not being able to wait for a date? Have you felt like no one likes you, you're not exactly the type that others would go after, and you're aware that you rarely mess with anyone's head? Then no, don't say it. If a potential new counterpart asks you how it's possible that you're still single, be sure not to throw in information about how no one else wants you. Although it may be a quick response to a question that may put you on the spot, don't put yourself in the position of someone who is unable to find anyone and doesn't even trust themselves enough to feel attractive. Even if this may be true and no one else has asked you out for a few years, you're sitting on one now, so don't mess it up!

7. Ruin the compliment

The last point is probably one of the hardest. Everyone is secretly hoping to get a compliment or award. We want to feel attractive and interesting, especially to the person we are in the dating stage with. Of course, you know the drill - a compliment comes along and the self-critical side of us gets stirred up. We start to negate the situation and deny that there is anything to praise. Don't do it. You may have just made yourself look extremely insecure, the magic has worn off and no more compliments will ever come from that side.