What makes a man a better man? Read the advice of the experienced!
Reddit users share which of these uncomfortable truths have benefited them and made them better men."It's not exactly fine, but you have to realize that the world doesn't appreciate hard work. No one appreciates all you've done to get to where you are. The world doesn't care about your efforts, instead it's important to work smart and think about how much effort you put into things," writes one user.
That the world doesn't work as a meritocracy, a system that rewards effort and merit, more Reddit users agree.We all need to realise that," added another.
"Sometimes things just happen to go wrong even when we do everything right. Or so we think at the time. At that moment, there's no point in blaming ourselves and throwing ashes on our heads. But how we deal with such problems can say far more about us than a thousand words. After all, these are still our problems and our responsibility," writes another user.
The world just doesn't cheer for us, doesn't wish us well, and more or less doesn't care about us. "The world doesn't care about us. That is a simple fact. Although it may sound bad and totally demotivating at first, it helped me realize who I am. And it also made me think, since I'm actually one with the universe, that I should treat myself better. Sometimes when you screw up, you feel like you've completely written yourself off, but that's not the case. There's no point in punishing ourselves so harshly; rather, we should motivate ourselves to do better next time."
And there's one more important thing you should learn. "The most important thing that I think made me a better guy was learning to say 'no.' It's kept me from crappy relationships, from friends who just happen to take advantage of you, from all kinds of bad offers, just from things and people you don't want. You don't even have to be unpleasant. You just have to smile, be nice, but stand firm and explain to people why you won't nod at their request."
The LifeHack server in turn gives one piece of advice that may sound a little unconventional. Everywhere you read today, you read how you shouldn't suppress your emotions and pretend to be someone or something you're not. But LifeHack advises to try to suppress some emotions after all, especially the negative ones. After all, a grown man isn't going to be swayed by jealousy, anger or other negative traits. No one is asking you to be emotionless robots, but you probably know when and where emotions have their place.
It's also important to learn responsibility. Sure, you don't always get dealt the best cards, but it's important to be able to own up to your mistakes and also learn from them. Few people are more embarrassing than the person who sees a conspiracy behind even burning his tongue with hot tea in the morning.
One of the most important pieces of advice then, paraphrased, is "he who is afraid does the needful in the courtroom". Don't let fear control you, you only live once. Don't be afraid to step out of line, don't be afraid to take charge in moments of need. There is no point in living your life as a bystander.
So try to think about what you could improve about yourself. Just start small. But it's definitely wrong to freeze in one place and settle for little. You've been evolving your whole life. So keep that in mind.
