Did it resonate (not only) with the supremacists? Survey shows single men no longer attracted to sex
They say that everything bad is good for something. Apparently, this is also true of the coronavirus pandemic. Although we have often heard recently that it has had a rather negative impact on relationships, research into how they have changed in this period compared with previous years suggests otherwise. Sex lovers, however, will not be happy with the results of the survey.
But data is data, and the results of a survey commissioned by dating app Match from Dynata in collaboration with researchers at Indiana University in the US speak volumes. A flat 81 percent of men surveyed admitted that sex is no longer as important to them in a relationship as it was before the pandemic. They were much hornier then.
This is, after all, evidenced by the fact that the number of men and women interested in one-night stands has dropped significantly. While before the pandemic it looked like the trend of meaningless "one-offs" aimed at having a good time without any scenes around will be with us for a long time, the opposite is true. Non-committal lovemaking remains attractive to only 11 percent of singles, according to the survey. "The pandemic has whetted people's appetite to experience meaningful, stable, long-term relationships," the survey says. So even men are starting to give more priority and respect the proverbial rule of three dates.
This philosophy translates to online dating as well. The infamous "dick pics" and other embarrassing photos are slowly disappearing from dating apps and private communication on social media, and the once-phenomenon is becoming more of a taboo.
The new approach to sex can be explained mainly as a result of a change in values. Trust (and trustworthiness), communicativeness, openness, sense of humour and emotional maturity have taken the top ranks of qualities considered attractive. Only 78 percent of singles now crave physical attractiveness in the first place. This is a huge drop from last year, when it was 90 percent.
But people may have arrived at their current perception of relationship priorities, according to the survey results, largely because of (or because of?) the coronavirus pandemic. In fact, many of us have gone within, focused on self-development, taken up new hobbies and started to organise our time, finances and lives better.
But the survey dispels another big myth. Women are generally seen as the more fragile, sensitive and emotionally involved creatures who fall in love much more quickly than men. But times are changing in this regard too. In fact, a survey revealed that after just two dates, 53 per cent of men can admit that they are starting to feel something for the person. But when it comes to women, the result is quite shocking. In the same period, only 38 percent of women are sure of their growing affection for their counterpart. And that's a pretty sad fact.
The aforementioned survey also showed that nothing is just black and white, but that there are still plenty of grey areas. The coronavirus pandemic had a lot of downsides, but many of us were able to use it to our advantage in at least some ways. And if you were really very upset about the sex thing, don't despair here either - after all, all the people interviewed were from America, so it's still quite possible that things are quite different here. Who knows - those of us who are single will have to pluck up the courage and find out for ourselves after a forced hiatus in dating.
