Majority heterosexual: Today's men don't just desire women, they desire men. Yet they are not gay
Perhaps they could be referred to as "heteroflexible", some might even say bisexual, but none of this accurately describes the trend that is affecting more and more men of the younger generations. They are sure of their heterosexuality, but on the other hand, they not infrequently hear the desire to experience something extra, i.e. a (sexual) relationship with another man. These "majority heterosexual men" already outnumber even the bisexual and gay men. And while the label "majority heterosexual" may seem rather paradoxical to some, and others may simply sum up the situation by saying that it is an attempt to be interesting or a simple phase of youthful experimentation, the opposite is true.
Mostly heterosexual men know they are not gay, yet there is a little bit of the desire for gay adventure in them. How much? According to researchers who have been studying the topic for the past decade, these gay desires account for approximately 5-10% of all sexual and romantic feelings. And they're not necessarily fulfilled in a practical sense - some "mostly heterosexual men" may only dream of intercourse with another man, while others may actually indulge in it, but usually more in the realm of oral sex or joint masturbation. Indeed, as studies suggest, the likelihood of actual sexual intercourse with a man in these cases is minimal, but not impossible.
Regardless of the fact that even today's society still needs to classify and pigeonhole people, the majority of heterosexual men are not really bisexual, nor are they gay men who are trying to edge their inclination towards the opposite sex to gain privileges otherwise reserved for heterosexuals. Nor can majority heterosexual men be said to be jaded by sex with women; "majority heterosexual" is indeed a unique sexual identity that complements the male romantic soul to some extent.
Meanwhile, virtually anyone can be a majority heterosexual. It can be a man who feels too shackled by traditional heterosexuality and sees it as an unnecessary burden. "Weren't we all born bisexual after all, and forced by culture to choose whether we are straight or gay?" asks one man who rejects the traditional division of sexualities and questions whether he could have been gay if his parents had raised him differently. But he may also be a man who simply finds other men besides women very attractive. Does the fact that a man finds another man sexy call into question his own (hetero)sexual orientation? Finally, it may also be a man who flat out admits that he is indeed sexually attracted to other men under certain circumstances. He may not necessarily sleep with them, but men may appear in his sexual fantasies. And when the right constellation occurs, eventually sex with another man can happen.
Under the weight of the above, then, it becomes more than obvious that heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality are no longer sufficient concepts. While generations of teenage and young girls and women predominantly refer to their sexuality as fluid, boys and young men are beginning to understand that to be heterosexual, it does not necessarily mean that the only object of their (sexual and romantic) interest must be women. After all, one could say that many people have felt some attraction to a person of the same sex at least once during their lifetime, but whereas in earlier times this was something unacceptable even in terms of ideas, today the acceptance of difference is much higher. And as is evident, people are increasingly seeking to leave the impenetrable boundary of heterosexuality that unnecessarily restricts and shackles them.
