Where are the most twinks and where are the most open relationships? Grindr reveals the surprising desire map of 2025
Every December, the internet fills up with screenshots of Spotify Wrapped, but in the shadow of the playlists is another phenomenon that has almost cult status in the queer community: the Grindr Unwrapped. While Spotify shows what we listen to, Grindr maps how we live, desire, and flirt. It's a unique cross-section of queer realities that vary greatly across the country - twinks rule some places, bears rule others, and in some countries people prefer open relationships.
This year, Unwrapped reflected data from more than 15 million monthly active users, so it's not a curiosity or an anonymous statistic, but a broad global picture of how different communities across the world think about bodies, intimacy and relationships. Whether you use Grindr or have only heard of it as the world's most famous gay dating site, the results of this year's Unwrapped offer a surprisingly varied and often amusing look at modern queer life.
The following map of desire in 2025 is a mix of numbers, cultural signals, and hilarious findings that show that queer identity has never been more colorful. And that's what makes it a fascinating topic for anyone interested in contemporary culture and society.
United Kingdom: fem tops rule the isles
This year, the UK has been racking up queer firsts that perhaps few would have expected. According to Grindr, it's the country with the highest number of fem tops-that is, users who appear softer, have a more feminine style, but often play a dominant role in the sexual dynamic. It's a connection that breaks down stereotypes, and also shows how the UK queer scene is working with gender much more loosely than it was just a few years ago.
The country also ranked second in the number of bottoms, those who prefer a passive role. It was only surpassed by France, which clearly retains its charm in this statistic. What does it say? That the British queer community is incredibly diverse. There is no one dominant trend, but a whole spectrum.
And when it comes to travel, London has won the title of the best city in the world for 'gaycation' - the perfect destination for a queer holiday. In practice, this means a city full of bars, clubs, events and community spaces that form a continuous stream of queer life. For straight readers: gaycation is essentially a "city break", only it's completely free of the need to filter what you can afford, say or wear.
Ireland: a bear paradise
A few hundred kilometres away lies a completely different queer universe. Ireland has the largest number of bears, i.e. men with more pronounced physiques, often with thick body hair and a naturally more 'earthy' energy. The Bear community has long been very strong in the queer world, and the Irish result confirms that its aesthetic and lifestyle are extremely entrenched on the island.
Behind Ireland, the US, Greece and South Africa were ranked - three countries united by their openness and vibrant queer culture, albeit each in very different ways. Fifth place goes to the UK, which just goes to show how versatile the scene there is: from fem tops to bears, the British Isles simply have it all this year.
Daddy season: USA traditionally dominates
When it comes to "dads" - older, confident men with a caring, sometimes even mentoring energy - the results don't come as much of a surprise. The US is the country with the most daddy users. This archetype is ingrained in pop culture, aesthetics and humour here - from Hollywood stars to local queer legends.
The United States is followed by Australia, the United Kingdom and New Zealand. The common denominator is a laid-back vibe and a culture that values confidence, experience and charisma, elements that the daddy persona has traditionally embodied.
Twins in Switzerland, open relationships in South Korea and foot fetish made in Italy
This trio of stats is among the most interesting in this year's Unwrapped:
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Switzerland has the most twinks - that is, younger, rather slender men with a distinctly youthful appearance. For a non-queer audience, this is an aesthetic category that is often associated with a certain energy of lightness and playfulness. What's interesting about Switzerland is that the country is commonly perceived as serious and slick - and that's where the largest number of twinks are concentrated.
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South Korea leads the way in open relationships, perhaps the biggest surprise of the year. While the country is known for its rather conservative public space, the data shows a younger generation that is experimenting much more with relationship models outside of traditional monogamy.
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Italy dominates in foot fetish. The queer community there most prominently reported an interest in feet as an erotic element. And of course, the internet immediately seized on a geographical joke: the shoe-shaped country leads the way in foot love.
The year of "Hung" and the Swiss nude photo boom
In the ranking of the most searched profile labels this year, "Hung" came in first place . For straight readers - it's a straight term for a man with a bigger penis. So the Grindr community isn't beating around the bush, and the stats just confirm that honesty sometimes wins out over subtlety in the online world.
Switzerland scored another first: users posted the most nude photos there. It's a striking contrast to a country we usually associate with secrecy and aloofness. But the online space clearly shows a different, much more open side.
Grindr also reported that nearly 13 billion "taps" - quick taps on a profile to signal interest - have been sent worldwide. It's a simple mechanism, but in practice it's the most widely used digital form of flirting available to users.
Icons of the year: Gaga, Bailey, Pascal and Mills
The community also voted on who moved the queer imagination the most this year:
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Joey Mills was voted the most popular adult film star.
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Pedro Pascal retained the title of most popular dad for the third year - his friendly energy and visual aura make him a safe pop culture haven.
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Jonathan Bailey, freshly voted "World's Hottest Man," won the title of Hottest Man of the Year and, along with Bad Bunny, the award for Best Bulge - that is, the sexiest bulge in your pants.
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Lady Gaga was named Mother of the Year - an honorary title in the queer community for someone with cultural influence and a devoted fanbase. Her album Mayhem won as the most popular, and the single "Abracadabra" became the most-used song on user profiles.
And one of the funniest stats of the entire Unwrapped:
During the nights of her Mayhem Ball tour, Grindr usage increased by seven percent in the cities in question. So Gaga is proving that her concerts have an impact not only on vocal cords, but on dating apps as well.
What does the data tell us about queer in 2025?
This year's Grindr Unwrapped shows the queer world in its full breadth. It's not just about fun categories, but a reflection of the way people think about relationships, sexuality and self-expression. Britain was dominated by fem tops, Switzerland by twinks, South Korea by open relationships and Italy confirmed that erotic aesthetics can be as cultural as cuisine or fashion.
For the queer community, Unwrapped is an annual mirror. For straight readers, it's an invitation into a world that is far more diverse and layered than stereotypes often describe. And for Grindr? It's proof that data can be not only informative, but also funny, human, and surprisingly poetic.
