Orgasm without hands: With the right technique, you can climax without touching yourself
A hands-free orgasm is, simply put, any orgasm you achieve without touching your genitals with your hands. Or without anyone else touching them with their hands. But besides the classic penetration or the well-known oral sex, there are plenty of other methods to give yourself a flood of erotic pleasure.
You can play with your body and enjoy it without touching your lap with your hands, in the context of an intimate romp with your partner, but also alone during masturbation. Discovering new stimulation techniques and exploring your arousal is actually an excellent way to get to know your body better, learn what feels good to you, and ultimately enjoy sex with someone else.
But remember that there is no one "right" technique for masturbating or having sex. Likewise, hands-free orgasm is not something that has to be your ultimate erotic goal. Some of the following techniques are simple, but others are very advanced and may not work at all during your first (or even later) attempts. Don't give up, though, and don't consider an erotic "session" that doesn't end in orgasm a failure. The ultimate goal is simply to experience pleasure. And that takes many more forms than just orgasm.
Orgasms without hands but with touch
1. Penetrative and oral sex
The most typical way of achieving orgasm without using hands is sex. Whether vaginal, anal or oral. In this case, the genitals are stimulated by the other person's genitals, their ass or their mouth or tongue. However, it is important to say that some people find it very difficult to reach orgasm in this way and need some other form of stimulation.
2. Prostate irritation
For men, or people with a prostate, it is also possible to achieve orgasm by teasing this highly sensitive spot in their anus. The prostate (or prostate gland) is a small organ located deep in the small pelvis of men, but as you know, it can be stimulated through the anal wall. You can feel the prostate on the side of the abdomen, about two index finger links deep. It's about the size of a walnut. The prostate is interwoven with many nerves and is very sensitive, so irritating it can be unpleasant. But if you go exploring with feeling, you'll probably love its stimulation and you may even reach orgasm. And a very strong one at that. That's exactly why so many gay men like anal sex in a passive role.
You can use your fingers to tease the prostate, but toys work great too. Look for anal pins or prostate stimulators. Some are even vibrating and remote-controlled, so you can enjoy the pleasure even if your hands are behind your head.
3. The power of water
If you've ever stood up in the shower so that the stream of water hit you right there, you know how dramatic the effect can be. And if you haven't, you should definitely try it. That's because this liquid is not only life-giving, it's also orgasm-giving. When you're in the shower, set a comfortable temperature (definitely not too hot) and let the stream of water hit the sensitive spots between your legs, like your clitoris, glans, or the bridle just below your stomach. If you have a shower with a massage head, you can also use this powerful stream for an intense experience.
However, if your vagina is part of your body, be careful not to "splash" it. Water does not belong in it and could upset its natural pH, which can lead to the development of yeast and other infections.
Orgasms without touching the crotch
A) Sensitive nipples
As we have already indicated, orgasm can also be achieved without genital stimulation. Before you go completely touch-free, you can explore the erotic teasing of other parts of the body. The first favourite, and for some people an extremely sensitive part, are the nipples. It doesn't matter what gender it is, everyone can enjoy this touch. Nipples can be massaged with fingers, licked, sucked, teased with special suction cups or even teased with clothespins. Some like it incredibly gentle, others prefer a harder treatment. And some like it completely cold. But it's definitely worth a try.
B) BDSM practices
BDSM play goes even further, although we've actually bitten the bullet with nipple torture. In this case, however, it's not necessarily just about the physical sensation per se, but the dynamics of the whole situation play a role as well. Submission and dominance. Power is a powerful aphrodisiac, and playing with it can turn someone on to the max. In such an aroused state, someone will then reach orgasm from getting a spanking, for example. People who have had this experience usually agree that it is not just the act of spanking that plays a role, but also the mental state of submission they have to get into.
But you can try BDSM excitement without the beating. Try getting tied up, handcuffed, or blindfolded, for example. Even this "weakening" can turn you on significantly. Plus, if you don't have your hands available, you won't inadvertently give yourself a "hand" orgasm.
Orgasm without touching at all
The imaginary high-water mark of "unorthodox" orgasms is climaxing completely without physical touch. As unbelievable as it seems, it really is possible. The techniques used for this come from tantra and other conscious approaches to body awareness and are among the most advanced. You probably won't climax the first time, but if you persevere, you may be rewarded with an orgasm unlike anything you've ever experienced before. And even here, both men and women can climax this way.
I. Orgasmic breathing
"Orgasmic breathing helps you stay fully centered, connected to your body while increasing blood flow, heightening arousal, and allowing sexual energy to circulate throughout your body," says somatic sex coach and tantra teacher Anya Laeta.
Lie on your back, bend your legs and rest your feet on the mat. Relax, including your face, jaw, etc. Slowly inhale as much as you can and exhale smoothly. Do not pause between inhalation and exhalation. As you inhale, clench your pelvic floor muscles (as if to hold in your pee) and gently lift your pelvis off the mat. Exhaling, relax the muscles and gently push the pelvis down. This will help stir up sexual energy."Imagine a stream of white light traveling from your crotch to your temple with an inhale and receding back again with an exhale," advises Laeta. Try the exercise for at least 15 minutes the first time to see how you respond to it. Next time, you can lengthen or shorten the interval.
Zdroj: GiphyErotic fantasies and meditation
It seems almost unbelievable to reach orgasm purely through fantasy, but I'm sure you know moments when you're so aroused you'd swear you'd "explode" if someone touched you. Just such arousal can be tipped into orgasm by mental effort alone, even if the technique is very advanced. If you're still skeptical, know that a 2005 study found that orgasmic pleasure and satisfaction is more related to cognitive (mental) aspects than to physical sensation per se.
You can indulge in erotic fantasies alone, but you can also involve a partner in the experience. For example, by guiding you through a fantasy, describing it to you and describing the details in a similar way to phone sex. In a similar way, you can even undergo erotic meditation or hypnosis with a sex therapist. It's a way of finding a deep connection with your intimacy, your experience and your body. Without any direct touch.
Begin gradually
Now, if you've told yourself that you'd like to experience orgasm without touch, you probably have a long way to go in getting to know your own body, mind and experience. So it may be easier and more enjoyable to take this journey gradually. Start with classic masturbation, where you don't play porn but focus on the sensations in your body and breathing. And then gradually move on to touching elsewhere on your body, such as your nipples, and eventually try arousal using just your breath and imagination. Or you can just use some of the techniques to spice up your current sex life. The goal is pleasure, not performance.
